L-O-V-E: the four lettered word that either makes or breaks a person
The heart, as fragile as it is, is similar to a mother’s womb, forever withholding and sustaining all that’s cared for.
Whilst growing up watching movies such as, The Notebook, Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind etc, we have had different analogy on how love should be and how it actually was. The romance genre, as much as it makes the heart bloom, also makes us fantasize over the kind of love that is unrealistic in this modern age.
If you thought love couldn’t get any complex, this pandemic acted as the godmother who held us by the back of our necks, and actually showed us the intensity of how much compromise, sacrifice and forgiveness love requires. Love is not the painting of a couple holding hands and walking through the streets of Paris. Love has its own ugly side but you can only allow an individual to be your other half when you have accepted them in all their flawed glory.
Single people and people who are in a relationship are more divided than ever. The United Nations has warned every one of the risks and importance of mental health hovering over us as the pandemic wears on, thus we should be aware of dismissing the value of happiness. However, this caution raises many questions. How does an individual value happiness while staying in a confined space for an indefinite amount of time?
Agonizingly, our pandemic “selves” are ourselves now. 2019 is a forgotten lore as humanity trudges forward towards an unknown future. Thus, the benchmark of commitment are not going to apply to the new normal. The Love playbook is being re-written with new rules and lovers are clumsily trying to go by the book.
The common problems that couples are facing during this pandemic is how much contact is acceptable? Even though the value of a joyful day escalates during quarantine, lovers are struggling with the internet etiquettes and boundaries on how to treat each other from behind the screen.
This pandemic is bound to shake up the healthiest of all relationships regardless of it being romantic or not. The indefinite quarantine is forcing out relationship issues that couples already had or maybe it is allowing a new field for new, unforeseen discoveries of new problems. Most couples are in between the labyrinth of fast tracking the relationship or pausing future plans even though the pandemic has time running down the hourglass faster than ever before. Words such as “divorce/ breakup” are getting effortlessly tossed around the room. There is a sublime feeling of content being far apart and at the same time lovers are also worried about it.
Reality checks are harder to swallow when everyone at this moment are on the run to find alternative sources of stability. Even if the relationship is going well, it kind of throws couples for a loop whether they are doing it right.
“There is no right and wrong when your heart is at the mercy of your lover”
The pandemic, even though extreme, is yet similar to the challenges life serves us in a silver platter. The trick is to contemplate and realise where exactly you and your partner stand in the relationship and what is it that you want out of it.
Keeping aside the stumbling block this pandemic is acting to be, people in love always find a way around- for the heart follows no rules. As long as couples know how to treat and respect each other, the issues that the pandemic brews will be easier to tread through.
The practice of gratitude not only serves to be the trump card of a positive mind set but also helps an individual be more compassionate, kind and empathetic to its surroundings and people. There will always be a difference on how your other half is handing the pandemic in comparison to how you are but isn’t a good balance the key to a stable relationship?
This pandemic is acting as a paradoxical page of where one side holds up the worst nightmares any couples wouldn’t dare to think of whereas the other side is filled with learning opportunities that will not only make you a better person but will also have us more acquainted with the concept of “realistic love”
To serve justice to this article, the pandemic is neither breaking nor making relationships. It is simply providing us with an opportunity to test our endurance, awareness of our choices and makes us look at the decisions we made with a new pair of eyes.
Love knows no boundaries -- it has been proven since the dawn of time. However, even if the world is hiding behind masks and PPE suits, love also finds a way to serve a blissful end to your story.